Facebook is a tarted up homewrecker!

As I was driving to work this morning I was listening to that “Intelligence for your life” John Tesh morning show. John had lots of interesting information this morning, including the fact that women are now more commitment phobic then men, because women are now the bread winners in more relationships and therefore see marriage and settling down as less of a priority. You don’t say……

John then stated something that is probably common knowledge to most of us; Facebook is a relationship obliterating bomb. He said that 1 in 3 divorcing couples cite Facebook as a cause. I am willing to bet that the other 2 out of 3 would say it’s because the husband can’t ever seem to get his dirty clothes into the laundry hamper. Just sayin.

Facebook hurts relationships?!?

 I am typing this with about as much feigned shock and disbelief as I can muster. Honestly, no one should be shocked to hear this. 

Social media and technology as a whole, I believe, are a lot of the reason that no one is faithful anymore. Why would you need to be when you have sooooo many options that are just a text or an instant message away from hopping in the sack with you?

It is so easy to get sucked in. You log in one day and find a friend request from long lost ex boyfriend or girlfriend. It seems innocent enough. So you are soon bfbff’s (best facebook friends forever) and getting all caught up on what’s been going on in each other’s lives. Trivial chat about your dead end job and tivo’d tv shows you need to catch up on turn into serious conversations about how you are being wronged or poorly treated by your current significant other. The next thing you know you are both reminiscing about old times and how great it was when you were together. Remember all the great sex you used to have? Oh yeah, you should definitely talk about that too while you are at it. And you can see where I am going with this, right? Sooner than you can say “How much wood could a wood chuck chuck if a wood chuck could chuck wood?”, you are explaining to your devastated boyfriend or girlfriend how you didn’t mean to but you must have tripped and fallen, naked and thrusting, onto your ex whom you have recently reconnected with thanks to the magic of the interwebs and social media. Trust me; it’s happened to yours truly. Not the falling, naked and thrusting part… the being devastated girlfriend part. People are assholes sometimes.

Maybe it’s not an ex that is causing you concern. Maybe it’s just some girl named Vera who works for “Hot bitches 4 Life” (classy, yeah? I swear to jeebus I am not making that up either) and likes to message your man at all hours of the night. Facebook is the land of ignored boundaries. So what if he says he has a fiancé, it is still probably totally ok to text him at 2am, right? Wrong. With “Hot bitches 4 life” on your life resume, I am sure you have no shortage of men to booty call at 2am. Move along now, hussy.

*sigh*

And then there are all the ways that facebook wants to make you aware of things that wouldn’t have normally bothered you, but somehow when broadcasted over a news feed seem to scream “inappropriate!!”  Like when I log on to be politely informed by facebook that my fiancé “liked” one of his ex girlfriend’s pictures. Oh and it even wants to show me the picture. She’s in a bath robe…. Awesome. And I am suddenly tallying up in my head all the photos that I post that get no “likes” or comments or acknowledgment by him in any form. Even more awesome. Thank you so much, Facebook, for making me a neurotic mess.

Note to self: Post half naked pics on facebook. Even if it doesn’t get my man’s attention, it will definitely get me some fans ;)

Facebook is a place where people share way too much information, mistake online friendships for real life meaningfulness and think they can get away with a whole lot more than normal because, after all, it’s all over the internet, so it’s not real and doesn’t really matter.  But when internet relationships or texting relationships start affecting your real life relationship that is when you need to take a step back. 

So yes, I can definitely see how Facebook, or social media in general as I have included it, can be the reason for a failed marriage or relationship. It’s almost been the demise of my own on more than one occasion. 

Nothing is ever quite as “innocent” as we want it to be. It is only as innocent as the person you want most to NOT find out about it perceives it be.

Just food for thought……..