Being hot and messy, one day at a time.
That is always hard to figure out. Have you just asked? Because as the ol saying says. When you assume you make an Ass of u and me. :-). Hope life shows you the way!
Oh yes, I did just ask. And I got the answer I did, and have been adjusting behavior accordingly.... now I find that new behavior is wrong because clearly I am incapable of understanding (somewhat) clear sentences. I suck.